RALEIGH – In a set of DVDs filed Thursday, Brad Cooper talked about his relationship with his murdered wife Nancy Cooper, his extramarital affair and what happened the day his wife disappeared.

The DVDs showed last week's seven-hour deposition with attorneys for his wife's family, which is fighting for custody of the Coopers' two daughters.

In the deposition, Brad Cooper said his marriage had its "ups and downs," especially when asked about the period from Jan. 1 to July 12.

"I would say our marriage was more on the down side of things," Brad Cooper said.

He said he and his wife had been in marriage counseling in February, just five months before she was found strangled to death.

"We had a few issues, but one of them was the indiscretion I had with [another woman] three, four years ago," Cooper said. "The other issue we had was dealing with trust, over spending."

Although Brad Cooper spoke of his slain wife mostly in a positive light, calling her a good wife and a great mother, he did say she had some weaknesses.

"I'd say that she spent more than we had, which was unfortunate, and she drank a little bit more than I would have wanted to," Cooper said.

Cooper admitted that his wife's spending, along with his affair, were two of the couple's major issues that often came up in arguments. Although his job at Cisco systems pays an annual salary of around $130,000, Cooper said the couple overdrafted their checking account more than once, most recently in February. Failure to pay their water bill that same month resulted in service being cut off for a day.

Cooper said that to control Nancy's spending, he gave her an allowance of at least $300 a week, but that she still sometimes spent more against his wishes. He said she once bought a $9,000 painting with the couple's credit card.

Brad Cooper also said he and his wife had gotten into an argument the day before she disappeared, and then talked about the area where her body was found.

"As far as I know, I could not imagine Nancy running across that road," he said. "It wouldn't be one of the roads I would think she would run on."

Nancy's parents and sister have temporary custody of the young girls, but Brad Cooper wants full custody.

In affidavits also filed Thursday, a detective with the Cary Police Department said Brad Cooper's testimony during the deposition is "inconsistent" with his statements to Cary Police immediately following his wife's disappearance and the discovery of her body.

The detective also said Cooper "has not fully cooperated with our investigation into the murder of Nancy Cooper and has not been willing to come to the police department to assist in the investigation and provide information despite formal requests ... that he do so."

That contradicts previous statements by the Cary Police Department and other law enforcement officers that Cooper has been fully cooperative.

In another affidavit filed Thursday, a woman said she overheard the couple arguing in the parking lot of their daughter's preschool. She said she heard Brad Cooper screaming obscenities in front of the couple's daughters, who were crying hysterically.

She said she heard Brad Cooper yell "give me the girls" and Nancy Cooper yell that he could keep the house, but she was taking the girls.

Brad Cooper's attorneys refused to comment on today's court filings.